ARE YOU ARGUMENTATIVE?
So today we take a look at the argumentative tongue! The scripture reference for this is found in Proverbs:
Proverbs 20:3 (The Message)
3 It’s a mark of good character to avert quarrels, but fools love to pick fights.
Argumentative people love to directly disagree or resist anyone whose viewpoint is different from theirs. They depend on topical conversations that produce unending quarrels. Entertainer Will Roger’s put it this way: “People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument.”
People can become quarrelers by growing up in homes where arguing was just apart of their life as eating. Arguing becomes a normalcy, its all they know; they believe it is normal to contend because that is what they saw. They do not realize that this is ineffective communication. People also become quarrelers to bolster their own self-worth. They seem to only feel good about themselves by attacking the validity of other people’s philosophies, beliefs or opinions and maneuvering them into defending their position. No one who is argumentative has a goal to add value to someone’s life by showing him/her the error of his ways.
Solomon tells us in Proverbs 17:14 :
The Message (MSG)
14 The start of a quarrel is like a leak in a dam,
so stop it before it bursts.
I would say that is some solid advice! We have to learn to disagree without being disagreeable. We glorify God when we remain loving even when we disagree with the views and values of unbelievers or believers that we just can not see eye to eye with. Be careful of HOW you disagree, you do not want to compromise your testimony.
Today ask God to help you resist becoming contentious by respecting everyone’s right to have his/her own values and views.
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE