Category Archives: WATCH YOUR MOUTH


  • You are mean…
  • You are stupid…
  • You are never going to accomplish anything…
  • Who is ever going to love you…
  • You are ugly…
  • You are a nobody…
  • You are fat…
  • You are disgusting…
  • You are too skinny…
  • You are dumb…
  • You are slow…
  • Your idea will never work…
  • Your marriage/relationship will never work…
  • You won’t finish school…

Sounds horrible doesn’t it? You could never imagine saying some of those things to others, never mind yourself right?! Yet most of you say those same things to yourselves on a daily basis. I’ll be the first to admit I have said some of those very things to myself. If were not telling ourselves some of those mean things, I’m sure we all can think of someone who has said something they shouldn’t have to us.

We are told in Proverbs 18:21, our tongues hold the power of life and death. We ALL know this, but still struggle with idea of speaking life into our OWN situations. We find it easier to believe and speak into others’ lives that God will do for them what he seems to take forever to do for us. We are quick to scold someone for speaking negative thoughts, while we struggle to find the positives in our situations. We all will fall, but it’s up to us to get back up and keep pushing toward our ultimate goals. Okay…sounds “cliche” right? I have something for you- I want you to meet Heather Dorniden. Watch this video…

When I first saw this video, I was so inspired. I was quickly reminded that this race represents so many of our stories. How many times do we find ourselves at the top of our game only to fall flat on our faces? To make things worse, Heather was in the lead going into the final lap! Instead of having a pity party, walking off the track, crying and whining, Heather picked herself up and finished the race. But not only did she finish the race, she finished with even more vigor than when she began. She used her fall to push her further into her victory. Can you imagine if Heather had negative thoughts about herself after she fell on the track? She would have NEVER pulled herself up and finished. I bet Heather spoke positive words to herself, she had faith, hope and she had a vision. She never lost sight of her goal…which was to finish the race.

We are all reminded to have faith, for,” Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” {Hebrews 11:1} for “Faith with out works is dead.” {James 2:14}. Are you seeing how these two go hand in hand? Having faith gives you the confidence you need to believe that what you hope for will happen, which in turn will push you forward to do the work, toward the vision that you have in front of you. Along your journey you will hit bumps in the road and you may even fall, but you must SPEAK LIFE! Speak life into your finances, your marriage, your life, your self-esteem, your job situation…whatever it may be! SO:

  • You are NICE…
  • You are SMART…
  • You are SOMEBODY…
  • You are HEALTHY…
  • You are AMAZING…
  • You are INTELLIGENT…
  • Your marriage/relationship will BE THE BEST IT’S EVER BEEN…

You will be alright friends…just remember it could be a WHOLE lot worse!

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I love you for all your continued support friends!

Love Yah!




One of our biggest challenges in calming the  multiple thoughts that we have on a daily basis. From how we look, what were going to eat, how we feel about ourselves at any particular moment, someone who is bothering us, regretting decisions that we might have made or didn’t make, someone we offended or vice versa….your mind is in heavy rotation ALL day. Like anything else as Christians, we must bring our thoughts under the submission of Christ. It is imperative to renew your mind as well as your spirit; when we don’t we allow ourselves to head down a path that may lead to depression, sadness, confusion, anxiety and fear- all of which are the complete opposite of what God has lined up for us. Much like a cell phone needs a charger to stay “alive”, you MUST stay connected to God to feel re-energized. It’s essential for us to stay connected to the One who will organize every thought that floats between our ears. 🙂

So I wanted to share a declaration with you. I want you to say it and allow it to settle on your heart, allow God to renew your mind. I have copied this same declaration everywhere in my vision. Its a wallpaper on my iPad and cell phone, I have it taped in front of my Bible and on a post it next to my bed –  and I encourage you to do the same! So clear the cloudy thoughts you may be having…and make room for the sunshine!

Renew Your Mind:

I dedicate myself to renewing my mind by reading, meditating and speaking God’s Word.It is my desire to keep my mind clear from anything that would hurt or weaken me spiritually.

I choose to think about good things and I refuse thoughts that are negative. I will not let doubt, worry or fear pollute my mind. I will be quick to respond to wrong thoughts by replacing them with proper thoughts and by speaking God’s Word over my life.

I refuse to fill my mind with the poison of gossip, backbiting and jealousy. I will guard and protect my mind by making a decision to meditate on God’s Word  so that I may be receptive to God’s voice and ever ready to do His will. I consecrate my mind, my will and my emotions to God, for His service.

Scripture references:

1. So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. { Romans 12:2 The Message}

a. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. {Romans 12:2 NLT}

2. Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies. {Philippians 4:8 The Message}

a.  Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. {Philippians 4:8 NIV}

3. The world is unprincipled. It’s dog-eat-dog out there! The world doesn’t fight fair. But we don’t live or fight our battles that way—never have and never will. The tools of our trade aren’t for marketing or manipulation, but they are for demolishing that entire massively corrupt culture. We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity. {2 Corinthians 10:5 The Message}

a. Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; {2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV}

Love Ya!




Do you remember that line from Alice in Wonderland? As kids we were scared for Alice, we couldn’t understand how the Queen could request something so severe!

There is a story circulating in Georgia about a young man named Troy Davis, who is scheduled to be executed by lethal injection today, 9/21 at 7pm. I felt compelled to write a short blog about him today because…there is a strong chance this man is innocent. There has been a numerous amount of evidence that has come to the forefront that could very well prove that he is innocent of the crime he was charged for.

Check out the story here—->Troy Davis

I used to be an avid supporter of the death penalty. I will admit that it took time for me to truly understand that we are not to judge whether or not someone lives or dies…it is not up to us-no matter how severe their crime. For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, {Romans 3:23} so who are we to determine someone else’s fate?   It is our job to show the love of Christ that can cover a multitude of sins. We are to forgive and move on and let God take care of the rest.”Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

I wanted you to be aware of what was happening and to remind you that you do not hold the fate of someone’s life in your hands. You don’t even control your own fate…

Your situation may not be as severe as the death penalty, but many of you “kill” someone whom you have not forgiven everyday. You try to control the fate of someone else because you harbor resentment and much like Troy Davis…they could be innocent. They may not ever intended to harm you, but you have charged them and want “off with their heads”.

Keep Troy Davis and the family of the victim in your prayers.


Love Ya,






Is that picture NOT the cutest thing you’ve ever seen?! LOL! I’m not even sure if it has much to do with what I’m going to write about…I just love it!

So yesterday, I heard the phrase, “Are you a 2am friend?” and it stayed with me ALL day yesterday. I woke up this morning to a friend asking what happened to TRUE friendship and I started to think about that as well. I began to wonder what happened to those 2am friends? They come so few and far in between. So many of us have part-time friends who want us full-time and that just cannot be.   Don’t you remember growing up and not being able to be separated from your friend? You were more loyal to your friends than you were your family sometimes lol…what happened to that loyalty and unconditional love? The ability to share secrets and know they weren’t going any further than your lips and your friends ears? What happened to the honor, value and respect people once had for their friendships? When did it become more difficult to separate your friends from your enemies?

I’m sure you’re wondering, “what in the world is a 2am friend?” A 2am friend is a friend that is reliable, available whether it’s 8am, 12 noon or 2am. A friend that grows with you, challenges you when your wrong and celebrates your accomplishments. A 2 am friend and their love for you has all of the attributes of 1 Corinthians 13. You can even replace the word “love” with your friend’s name and see how they measure up:

 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

So how many 2am friends do you really have? Most importantly, can people consider you to be a 2am friend?

Some of us have friends we once considered to be 2am friends and somehow along the way, we were hurt and questioned the entire friendship off of one incident. “But Peaches, you don’t know what they did to me!! What kind of so-called friend hurts their friends? It’s hard to forgive…”

Trust me!! I know. I have had “friends” lie about me, spread rumors, say horrible things to my face, steal from me, talk about me behind my back and smile in my face. We have all been there, but I remind you of Jesus. How he sat at a table and broke bread just hours before He would be betrayed by someone that he considered a friend. You see, none of us have an idea of what kind of curve balls our friends will throw or how they are going to disappoint  or hurt us. It is the risk we take when building friendships. These friends are humans and with humans, there comes mistakes. Jesus KNEW His “friend”  was not going to be loyal and STILL forgave – So who are we that we cannot forgive. Jesus offered the perfect example of how to be a 2am friend – we have no excuse. I charge you today to forgive. You do not have to become friends and skip through a tulip field LOL that’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is, you must forgive, move on and understand that everyone will not behave the way YOU expect them to. People will not always say the right things. People will not always do the right things. You can only be responsible for your maintaining your joy and having a positive attitude.

Everyone is not going to be a 2am friend; everyone is not cut out to be your best friend. You are going to have those friends you shop with, the friends you only text, your eating friends, etc. But there is going to be those friends that stand out. The ones that you know you can count on no matter what. The friends that always deliver and rarely disappoint. If you were stranded in the middle of a desert they would find a way to bring you home and have water for you when they get to you.

Let’s get back to being true friends to those around us. We throw the term “bestie” and “BFF” around so loosely that people are not understanding the value placed on these terms. Honor when your friends share personal news with you. How would you feel if you confided in someone and they turned around and spread your business? Let’s get back to being support systems and genuinely sharing in our friend’s good news and celebrations. Not because we want to be nosy or we are jealous and want to safe face but because we really love to see our friends filled with joy. Let’s get back to really praying for our friends and not starting “prayer calls” inviting others to “pray” for your friend.

Time for us to get back to being real 2am friends.

Love Ya!




Philippians 2:1-4

1-4If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.


Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others. {Philippians 2:4}


Is this what you see/hear when other people are talking to you about something that interests them?

Are most of your conversations with others centered around YOU, YOUR issues, YOUR accomplishments, YOUR good news, YOUR family, YOUR business, YOUR dreams and visions? Have you ever been engaged in a conversation with someone who was self-absorbed? Have you ever been in a relationship that appeared to be one sided? A Self-absorbed tongue will surely alienate others as almost everyone desires to feel important, have their feelings, dreams validated and supported as well as having the feeling of knowing someone cares about you. Trying to have a close relationship with a self-absorbed person is like trying to hug a porcupine.

When someone is speaking to you, are you looking around, are you in your phone, Facebooking or tweeting, staring past them, not making eye contact, or the infamous smile and stare and thinking about something/someone else; yet when you speak you expect everyone’s full, undivided attention about what YOU want to discuss? All of these actions can be felt by the other party vying for your attention–a clear message is sent who is valued in the conversation.

Be aware of this character flaw in your communication. If your not sure if you carry the characteristics of a “self-absorbed” diva or divo lol ask friends or family members; I’m sure they have waited to get a word or two in LOL! If you admit to being the “self-absorbed” type, turn your desires and need for attention, admiration, ego-boosting and other selfish motives over to God; after all it is He who supplies all of your needs. Make a conscientious effort to become absorbed with others and their interests. IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU! Challenge yourself to go a whole day or more without making your issues, your life, your accomplishments the focus of your communication. Give everyone you converse with your full, genuine attention. Allow them to know and feel that you genuinely care about them and what they have to say, and watch your relationships deepen.

Declare today that you will not only look to your own interests, but to the interests of others. The primary topic of your conversations today will not be about you…but you will focus on showing others the same attention that you demand.

Love Ya!




Mark 11:23

The Message (MSG)

22-25Jesus was matter-of-fact: “Embrace this God-life. Really embrace it, and nothing will be too much for you. This mountain, for instance: Just say, ‘Go jump in the lake’—no shuffling or shilly-shallying—and it’s as good as done. That’s why I urge you to pray for absolutely everything, ranging from small to large. Include everything as you embrace this God-life, and you’ll get God’s everything. And when you assume the posture of prayer, remember that it’s not all asking. If you have anything against someone, forgive—only then will your heavenly Father be inclined to also wipe your slate clean of sins.”


As I prepare for what just might be the largest and most exciting transition of my life…I opened this book to see the title “The Doubting Tongue”. Leaving the only state I’ve EVAH known to venture into a new life can be scary! But if it’s one thing I’ve learned over the years it’s whenever you choose to completely follow God…there can be NO ROOM for doubt. Words of doubt come out of an unbelieving heart and I choose to believe God. Whenever you doubt, you allow room for fear, anxiety and discouragement to slowly creep in and keep you from where God truly wants you to be.

If we ever hope to tame a doubting tongue, we must become familiar with the promises of God. Now of course simply knowing the promises of God is not enough; we MUST become proficient at DECLARING them. Remember, even lil ‘d (the devil) knew the scripture and is able to misquote scripture to fit his “mission”. God’s word and His promises for you have to become so much a part of your heart that you know the difference between lil ‘d’s voice, your voice and God’s voice; and if you’re like me…I only enjoy the sound of God’s voice! 😉

If your sick or need healing God promises He “…will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security” {Jeremiah 33:6}

If you need guidance God promises to “…lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. There are the things I will do; I will not forsake them” {Isaiah 42:16}

If you wonder about your future, God says, “I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” My favorite! {Jeremiah 29:11}

Feel like your a loser? Don’t! God promises victory for you!! He says, “You, dear children, are from God and Have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” {1 John 4:4}

Still have a little doubt? God promises to bless you if you trust Him…and remember, He is not like man, He can not lie! Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in Him. {Jeremiah 17:7}

Feeling unloved? Never have doubt regarding God’s love for you! God says, “Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed” {Isaiah 54:10}

What are some things you find yourself speaking about in a doubtful way? Is it fear of pursuing a career or business venture? Feeling doubtful about restoring a broken relationship? Do you have doubts about getting healthier? Remember God’s children are to live by faith in God. Our doubts can deter our destiny…it is so important to keep our eyes on God and hearts open to holding onto His promises.

Declare today that “According to Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. You tell me in Deuteronomy 31:6 to be strong and courageous; to not be afraid or terrified because you are with me. You promise to never leave or forsake me and because you said it Lord…I believe it! From this day forward I will declare my faith rather than discuss my doubts.”

Love ya!





Ahhh…the infamous Indiscreet Tongue! Some things are meant to be addressed privately… I’m sure we all know someone who needs to learn a little discretion!  I can think of someone…


Let’s define indiscreet:

not discreet; imprudent or tactless

Adjectives for indiscreet include:

tactless, foolish, rash, reckless, unwise, hasty, ill-advised, unthinking, ill-judged, ill-considered, imprudent, heedless, injudicious, incautious, undiplomatic <—those are horrible adjectives!!

One who is discreet shows prudence and wise self-restraint in speech and behavior; they will always reap a positive consequence.

Indiscretion can be costly. Some matters should simply be off limits for discussion. Have you ever found out something about a leader or prominent person and could not refrain from telling someone? Have you ever thought that if God trusted you enough to reveal someone’s nakedness and sin, that He expected you to cover them with discretion and intercession and not expose them? Bringing about a public revelation is not always necessary; it can cause irreparable damage, to the person as well as the body of Christ. That person’s punishment is God’s business, not yours.

No one is perfect and no one has 20-20 vision on themselves. Remember that! God may someday show someone your nakedness. Pray that it will be handled with wisdom and discretion…plant the seed of discretion now.


“My discretion will protect me and understanding will guard me.”


Love Ya,




We have ALL seen this commercial:

Can you guess what were going to discuss today?!

The Cursing Tongue:

James 3:10-12

The Message (MSG)

 7-10This is scary: You can tame a tiger, but you can’t tame a tongue—it’s never been done. The tongue runs wild, a wanton killer. With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth!

 10-12My friends, this can’t go on. A spring doesn’t gush fresh water one day and brackish the next, does it? Apple trees don’t bear strawberries, do they? Raspberry bushes don’t bear apples, do they? You’re not going to dip into a polluted mud hole and get a cup of clear, cool water, are you?

No matter how you slice this cake, using profane, obscene or vulgar language is unbecoming to a child of God. People use profanity for a number of reasons. They could lack adequate vocabulary to express themselves and therefore they feel they must curse for their words to have impact. They are challenged in the area of effective communication that is direct, clear and without hostility. Some use profanity to release their extreme frustration with a situation…much like our friends in the Orbit video above LOL!

You must first realize that profanity resides in your heart; this will help you to understand that the curse word did not just “slip” out of your mouth. In reality, it slipped out of your heart.

Luke 6:45

45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

Only God can change your heart. If you are challenged with profanity, ask Him to purify your heart and mind. Words are mental thoughts, you must practice the mental discipline of casting down profane thoughts and begin to use words that bring life to our innermost being and others.

Today declare:

Cursing does not proceed out of my mouth. Today I give God full charge of my tongue. By His grace I will only speak words that will bring honor to His name.


Love Ya!




You like my NY accent in the title of this entry?! LOL!

Job 29:24

New Living Translation (NLT)

24 When they were discouraged, I smiled at them.
My look of approval was precious to them.

Today we focus on the Discouraging Tongue. Think about a time where someone discouraged you and maybe when you dampened someone’s hope, confidence or enthusiasm by objecting their proposed thoughts or actions.  Now its so easy for us to say, “don’t believe what people say about you” “you have to have confidence in yourself” “you have to love yourself” but let’s be honest…at some point a pat on the back or encouraging word always helps offer a boost of confidence and needed support. There are an untold number of people who have missed their destiny because of someone’s discouraging words. Would-be inventors who abandoned their ideas due to critical friends and family, teachers who have discouraged students who had mediocre grades and other short-comings, people who have held their heads down from being told they were unattractive or ugly, being called a loser, dummy, fat, too skinny, all of these things can hinder someone in growing. Why would you want to be the hindrance?

Can you listen to someone’s dreams and plans without making disheartening remarks? Even if you cannot envision the dreams of another, at least agree to stand in faith with him for God’s perfect will to be done regarding of the proposed endeavor. Think of  the people who encouraged you during your life…didn’t those words have a positive effect on you? In a world where people are bombarded by negative comments and images, everyone can use a little encouragement from time to time. I challenge you today to make a conscious, sincere effort to always speak words of affirmation, support and inspiration to those within your circle. If you once spoke something discouraging to someone, whether 1 hour ago, yesterday, or years ago…it’s never to late to offer a sincere apology and re-energize that person with actions of support, since your words failed you before 😉

For those of us that have on the receiving end of a discouraging word…DO NOT BECOME DISCOURAGED!! You are SMART, INTELLIGENT, BEAUTIFUL, HANDSOME, CREATIVE!!!! Keep you eyes fixed on God who specializes in the impossible! God who is also known as the Potter…who can shape and mold mud and clay into a beautiful work of art. Be selective of whom you share your dreams with; everyone cannot handle your goodness! Their lack of faith, initiative and even their envy, may very well be the reason you abort your plans…don’t miss your calling listening to those who never ordered your steps in the first place.

Love ya!!




Proverbs 18:8

The Message (MSG)

8 Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy;
do you really want junk like that in your belly?


Gossipers are like news anchors…they know all the news, breaking stories and you can count on them to be on the scene in minutes. They have no problem going local, national or international with what they know. If you tune into a gossipers news report…you are just as part of the news as the anchor dishing it out.

So, what news station do you work for/tune into?  “TMZ”–reporting the latest in celebrity gossip news? CNN or Dateline providing up to date, factual, helpful information, that is meant to be informative, educational and thought provoking?

Have you ever engaged in idle and often malicious talk about the personal affairs of another? Have you ever been the receiver of gossip and participated; whether by listening or responding? Gossip, let’s be honest…we’ve ALL done it in barber shop chairs and beauty salons on sunny Saturday mornings, family outings, in school by the locker, at the lunch table…I think you get my drift ;).


I challenge you to ask yourself these questions:

1. Is gossiping the only way you know how to establish camaraderie with others?

2. Do you need to be the center of attention?

3. Does it make you feel superior to know something negative about somebody that the hearer does not know?

4. Are you envious of your subject’s accomplishments?

5. Why are you willing to use the temple of God, your mind and body, as a “trash receptacle” by being a receiver of gossip?

6. What do you plan to do with the information a gossip shares with you?

7. Are you bored with your life and looking for something to do? Are you in need of more meaningful activities? People who are aggressively pursuing their own goals and aspirations are less likely to waste time discussing the affairs of another.

Proverbs 20:19 warns us :

19 Gossips can’t keep secrets,
   so never confide in blabbermouths.

So why would you want someone like that in your company? Someone that you can’t trust. Most importantly, why would you want to be considered one of those people who are untrustworthy and considered a blabbermouth?

I will close today with something all of our parent’s have said to us at one time or another….IF YOU DON’T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY…DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Love Ya!