Category Archives: WATCH YOUR MOUTH
This is really difficult for me to do, but I know that it must be done. We can’t go on like this anymore. I don’t like being angry with you, and I know that I must do this. I need you to know how much I love you. I never want to hurt you, that is never my intention.
I apologize that I ever doubted you when you needed me to believe in you. I never meant to give up on you. I will forever be you loudest cheerleader.
I apologize for neglecting you and using all of my energy pouring into others around us. I apologize for the times I called you names and made you feel less than your worth. You are an amazing person, your beautiful, you are made in God’s image and please don’t ever forget it.
I apologize for making you feel like a failure, a burden. You are none of those things. You have so much to offer and I realize that if I just got out of your way you would see just how awesome you are.
I apologize for allowing people to treat you in ways that make you feel bad. I apologize for sharing you with people who did not recognize your value. I apologize for never standing up for you. I shouldn’t allow them to define who you are or allow them to influence the way that I feel about you. It’s not fair to you. You are priceless and mean the world to me.
I apologize for not taking care of you the way that I know I should. I apologize for lying to you and denying you what I know you need for my own selfish motives.
I apologize for loving others more than I love you. I apologize for drowning you in anger, frustration, confusion and other people’s issues and leaving no room for you to grow.
I am re-committing myself to… me today. I realize that we need each other and we have a lifetime to try to make this work 🙂 Will you accept my apology?
There is nothing wrong with realizing that you have to apologize to…you. Sometimes you are your own worst enemy, but today begin to become your best friend. Realize the damage that you can potentially do to yourself, build your relationship with the One who created you and you will soon find restoration in the area of loving yourself. You’re made in His image, the more you grow to love Him, the easier it becomes to love you!
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
When you speak do people feel better about themselves after spending time with you or do they feel worse than they did when they came to you? Are your expectations so high that you have a habit of focusing on people’s shortcomings rather than their assets? Do you have a way of motivating strangers and tearing down ones that are closest to you due to your high expectations for family and friends? Are you so insecure that you only feel good about your self when you are denigrating others?
The word “belittle” implies that something or someone is unimportant or little. It is used in order to disparage a person. To cast them in a negative light, with the intent of making them seem less impressive than they actually appear or feel. Words are just like a hammer; they can either tear down or help build up. Now please keep in mind that belittling isn’t a full fledged cut-down. It is taking a person down a few pegs, often to the belittler’s assumed level; think of it as evening out the playing field.
Do we belittle people about the same things we don’t like about ourselves? It always seems to be that way; but it makes me wonder, if people will ever realize that the grass is NEVER greener on the other side. In fact, if we ever want our grass to be greener…we should just water it.
We have to also realize that some people go to great lengths to make sure their lives appear successful, happy and secure. However most of the time, it is an illusion. They are those that are really empty but appear filled with joy and all things great. They are the ones lonely in crowds of people. In my 27 years I have not met anyone with a perfect life, and I venture to say that we never will. There is always someone better, stronger, cuter, smarter…but this is why I believe we should never compare ourselves to others, because sometimes what we compare ourselves to isn’t even real.
More over, people know when a person belittles another out of jealousy. What makes it worse is, it becomes apparent that they aren’t belittling the other person. They are actually belittling themselves.
Make it a habit to build up your family and friends. Offer an encouraging, sincere word to those around you. Tell you wife how much she means to you, tell your husband how much you appreciate his sense of responsibility, applaud your children for the excellent job they do in school and for staying away from drugs and alcohol, thank your friend for always keeping your secrets and being loyal, just to name a few! Resist the temptation to constantly want to “fix” something about them. Accept them for who they are and remember…you can never change a person, but you can control what changes you make regarding you!
Ask God to help you regarding your speech. Declare that no unwholesome talk will come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs (not what YOU think they need) and also that whatever words you share benefits those who listen.
EXCEL in all that you do LOVE harder than you normally would EXPLORE new things!
2 Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth;
an outsider, and not your own lips.
Oh yes!! We all know someone who always finds time to boast about their accomplishments or possessions! Now please don’t me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being excited about achieving goals and obtaining wonderful things, BUT who are you giving credit too? Yourself or God? Have you forgotten that everything you have comes from God? Nothing and I mean NOTHING that you do comes from your own hand. You don’t wake up on your own, you don’t breathe on your own, sometimes you can’t even decide what you’re going to wear that day, what makes you think you are living without the favor of God on your life? So why not start giving credit where credit is due!
Whatever skills or talents God has given you, they are for His glory. Learn to take pride in stride. If your popularity increases, do not become intoxicated by the praise and accolades. Praise is like old lady perfume…if you consume it, it will kill you!
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE
This morning during our morning prayer, my husband prayed a prayer that I absolutely loved. What was most amazing about the prayer was very few of the words were his own. He spoke God’s words. He stated several scriptures of what God promises to do for us and we both stood in agreement and solidified it with an Amen. It was a reminder of our duty to allow God’s Word to do the work for us-we don’t have to work so hard to solve anything! We just have to believe what He has promised.
So I decided to let you in on just few of the scriptures my hubby shared this morning and I few that I enjoy! Warning: this post does not come with a praying husband (gotta get your own :)) but it does come with motivation and an extra pep in your step! I left the house motivated and ready so I pray they do the same for you!
“…by his stripes we are healed.”
1 John 4:4
“…greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world.”
“…the steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD.”
“…I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
“…I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.”
“…No weapon formed against us shall prosper.”
Have a super, fantastic afternoon!!! Remember…let the Word do the work and stop workin’ so hard! Relax…God’s got this and He definitely doesn’t need your help, just trust and believe Him!
EXCEL in all you do, LOVE harder than you normally would and EXPLORE new things!
So today we take a look at the argumentative tongue! The scripture reference for this is found in Proverbs:
Proverbs 20:3 (The Message)
3 It’s a mark of good character to avert quarrels, but fools love to pick fights.
Argumentative people love to directly disagree or resist anyone whose viewpoint is different from theirs. They depend on topical conversations that produce unending quarrels. Entertainer Will Roger’s put it this way: “People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument.”
People can become quarrelers by growing up in homes where arguing was just apart of their life as eating. Arguing becomes a normalcy, its all they know; they believe it is normal to contend because that is what they saw. They do not realize that this is ineffective communication. People also become quarrelers to bolster their own self-worth. They seem to only feel good about themselves by attacking the validity of other people’s philosophies, beliefs or opinions and maneuvering them into defending their position. No one who is argumentative has a goal to add value to someone’s life by showing him/her the error of his ways.
Solomon tells us in Proverbs 17:14 :
The Message (MSG)
14 The start of a quarrel is like a leak in a dam,
so stop it before it bursts.
I would say that is some solid advice! We have to learn to disagree without being disagreeable. We glorify God when we remain loving even when we disagree with the views and values of unbelievers or believers that we just can not see eye to eye with. Be careful of HOW you disagree, you do not want to compromise your testimony.
Today ask God to help you resist becoming contentious by respecting everyone’s right to have his/her own values and views.
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE
Next up we are going to take a look at what it means to have a divisive tongue. The scripture reference for today is:
Matthew 5:9 (The Message)
9“You’re blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s when you discover who you really are, and your place in God’s family.
One of the enemies most effective ways to hinder progression is through divide and conquer. There is power, synergy and blessings when 2-3 touch and agree and are in harmony; therefore he makes every effort to bring division.
Believe it or not there are people out there who purposefully try to bring division and confusion amongst people and situations. They enjoy dissension and division.
You must not be ignorant to the enemies tactics: he will cause you to become offended over a harmless statement, you will read more into a comment than the speaker intended, you will ascribe impure motives to someone’s behavior or even believe a lie. Again, we MUST rely solely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit within us who will reveal the truth of any situation.
Have you ever pulled someone aside to share that someone else had said something about them? Were your intentions to gain favor with person A and expose person B for speaking poorly about someone? Were you indirectly communicating your own feelings about the “bad guy” at the expense of someone else? Either way your words have the potential to cause dissension if your underlying motives are not to bring peace and togetherness.
You are to refrain from causing division and become an active agent of peace by using your best effort to reconcile parties in conflict.
Today ask God to help you make every effort to speak words the bring peace and to help you refrain from any and all communication that creates dis-unity.
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE
Welcome back friends to another edition of 30 Days to Taming your Tongue. Today we focus on “The Hasty Tongue”. The scripture reference for this is found in Proverbs 29:20.
Proverbs 29:20 (The Message)
20 Observe the people who always talk before they think—
even simpletons are better off than they are.
Before we dig any deeper into what it means to have a hasty tongue, lets define hasty and see what words are in its company.
Hasty : Adjective: Done or acting with excessive speed or urgency; hurried
Now what words will you find in the company of hasty? See below…
abrupt, agile, brash, brisk, careless, eager, expeditious, fast, fiery, foolhardy, heedless, hurried, ill-advised, impatient, impetuous, impulsive, incautious, inconsiderate, prompt, quick, quickened, reckless, rushed, short, snappy, sudden, superficial, swift, thoughtless, urgent.
Wow! We all have to admit…we can be a bit hasty at times with our words as well as our actions, but I am sure we do not want our words or actions to be associated with hasty or the like words above. We must realize that we have a chance to offend someone because we fail to think before we speak or act. Have you ever committed to something and did not follow through without much consideration as to how that action will affect those involved? That is considered hasty as well. You are not equipped to measure someone’s sensitivity to something you say or do; here is where you are to totally depend on the Holy Spirit to lead and direct your speech.
There is another side to this coin and that is responding in haste. Do not be so quick to answer/respond to someone without fully understanding where they are coming from. The Bible says:
Proverbs 18:13 (The Message)
13 Answering before listening
is both stupid and rude.
How’s that for being blunt and honest?!
Overall, we must realize that time and words are two things that, once gone, can never be recovered. Take time today and everyday to weigh your words before you release them!
Today, declare over yourself that you are swift to hear and slow to speak. Ask God to set a guard over your mouth and ask Him to keep watch over the door of your lips!
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE
So….I’m a little late for the day 2 lol but better late than never right!?
Day 2 elaborated more on flattery. I am excited to share what the book said about it with some of my notes and observations in there! Take a look below.
DAY 2 : FLATTERY
THESE PEOPLE…FLATTER OTHERS TO GET FAVORS IN RETURN. (Jude 1:16 NLT)
Flattery : a lie covered in a bed of flowery words. Flattery is lying to someone to gain favor- which can be tangible or intangible. Some people flatter to get a promotion, to gain friends or acceptance among their peers; they even flatter for material things; bags, cars etc. Engaging in flattery is clear evidence that you have a lack of faith in God’s ability to provide favor to you.
God showed Esther favor in Esther chapter 2. He gave Daniel favor with one of the king’s officers in Daniel chapter 1. Joseph found favor in Egypt in Genesis chapters 39-41. If God did it for them….can He not do it for you? Certainly He can!
Let’s define favor.
Take a look at what the encyclopedia defines as favor.
The Oxford Pocket Dictionary of Current English | 2009 | 700+ words | Copyright
fa·vor / ˈfāvər/ (Brit. fa·vour)
• n. 1. an attitude of approval or liking (TOWARD US!)
∎ support or advancement given as a sign of approval: overgenerous preferential treatment: a small gift or souvenir
2. an act of kindness beyond what is due or usual
• v. [tr.] 1. feel or show approval or preference for.
∎ give unfairly preferential treatment to: (<— NOT TOO US BUT FOR US! GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR ENEMIES! THE BATTLE IS HIS NOT YOURS!)
2. inf. resemble (a parent or relative) in facial features: (WE ARE MADE IN HIS IMAGE!)
3. treat (an injured limb) gently, not putting one’s full weight on it. (HE NEVER WILL PLACE ANYMORE ON US THAN WE CAN BARE! )
WOW! That is favor my friends!!! God’s favor is with you daily- and you don’t have to do a thing to gain it. You don’t have to flatter people to find favor with man when God promises He will never leave us or forsake us!
For his anger lasts only a moment, but his FAVOR lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.
Today, meditate on Job 32:21-22 that says : “I will show partiality to no one, nor will I flatter any man; for if I were skilled in flattery, my Maker would soon take me away” Scripture is very clear on God’s plans for the flatterer. “The Lord shall cut off all flattering lips…” (Psalm 12:3). Now is flattering someone, in which gratification lasts only a moment, REALLY worth being cut off from God’s blessing and favor which last a lifetime?
EXCEL : LOVE : EXPLORE