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Philippians 2:1-4

1-4If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don’t push your way to the front; don’t sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.


Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others. {Philippians 2:4}


Is this what you see/hear when other people are talking to you about something that interests them?

Are most of your conversations with others centered around YOU, YOUR issues, YOUR accomplishments, YOUR good news, YOUR family, YOUR business, YOUR dreams and visions? Have you ever been engaged in a conversation with someone who was self-absorbed? Have you ever been in a relationship that appeared to be one sided? A Self-absorbed tongue will surely alienate others as almost everyone desires to feel important, have their feelings, dreams validated and supported as well as having the feeling of knowing someone cares about you. Trying to have a close relationship with a self-absorbed person is like trying to hug a porcupine.

When someone is speaking to you, are you looking around, are you in your phone, Facebooking or tweeting, staring past them, not making eye contact, or the infamous smile and stare and thinking about something/someone else; yet when you speak you expect everyone’s full, undivided attention about what YOU want to discuss? All of these actions can be felt by the other party vying for your attention–a clear message is sent who is valued in the conversation.

Be aware of this character flaw in your communication. If your not sure if you carry the characteristics of a “self-absorbed” diva or divo lol ask friends or family members; I’m sure they have waited to get a word or two in LOL! If you admit to being the “self-absorbed” type, turn your desires and need for attention, admiration, ego-boosting and other selfish motives over to God; after all it is He who supplies all of your needs. Make a conscientious effort to become absorbed with others and their interests. IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU! Challenge yourself to go a whole day or more without making your issues, your life, your accomplishments the focus of your communication. Give everyone you converse with your full, genuine attention. Allow them to know and feel that you genuinely care about them and what they have to say, and watch your relationships deepen.

Declare today that you will not only look to your own interests, but to the interests of others. The primary topic of your conversations today will not be about you…but you will focus on showing others the same attention that you demand.

Love Ya!




Mark 11:23

The Message (MSG)

22-25Jesus was matter-of-fact: “Embrace this God-life. Really embrace it, and nothing will be too much for you. This mountain, for instance: Just say, ‘Go jump in the lake’—no shuffling or shilly-shallying—and it’s as good as done. That’s why I urge you to pray for absolutely everything, ranging from small to large. Include everything as you embrace this God-life, and you’ll get God’s everything. And when you assume the posture of prayer, remember that it’s not all asking. If you have anything against someone, forgive—only then will your heavenly Father be inclined to also wipe your slate clean of sins.”


As I prepare for what just might be the largest and most exciting transition of my life…I opened this book to see the title “The Doubting Tongue”. Leaving the only state I’ve EVAH known to venture into a new life can be scary! But if it’s one thing I’ve learned over the years it’s whenever you choose to completely follow God…there can be NO ROOM for doubt. Words of doubt come out of an unbelieving heart and I choose to believe God. Whenever you doubt, you allow room for fear, anxiety and discouragement to slowly creep in and keep you from where God truly wants you to be.

If we ever hope to tame a doubting tongue, we must become familiar with the promises of God. Now of course simply knowing the promises of God is not enough; we MUST become proficient at DECLARING them. Remember, even lil ‘d (the devil) knew the scripture and is able to misquote scripture to fit his “mission”. God’s word and His promises for you have to become so much a part of your heart that you know the difference between lil ‘d’s voice, your voice and God’s voice; and if you’re like me…I only enjoy the sound of God’s voice! 😉

If your sick or need healing God promises He “…will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security” {Jeremiah 33:6}

If you need guidance God promises to “…lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. There are the things I will do; I will not forsake them” {Isaiah 42:16}

If you wonder about your future, God says, “I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” My favorite! {Jeremiah 29:11}

Feel like your a loser? Don’t! God promises victory for you!! He says, “You, dear children, are from God and Have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” {1 John 4:4}

Still have a little doubt? God promises to bless you if you trust Him…and remember, He is not like man, He can not lie! Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in Him. {Jeremiah 17:7}

Feeling unloved? Never have doubt regarding God’s love for you! God says, “Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed” {Isaiah 54:10}

What are some things you find yourself speaking about in a doubtful way? Is it fear of pursuing a career or business venture? Feeling doubtful about restoring a broken relationship? Do you have doubts about getting healthier? Remember God’s children are to live by faith in God. Our doubts can deter our destiny…it is so important to keep our eyes on God and hearts open to holding onto His promises.

Declare today that “According to Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. You tell me in Deuteronomy 31:6 to be strong and courageous; to not be afraid or terrified because you are with me. You promise to never leave or forsake me and because you said it Lord…I believe it! From this day forward I will declare my faith rather than discuss my doubts.”

Love ya!





You like my NY accent in the title of this entry?! LOL!

Job 29:24

New Living Translation (NLT)

24 When they were discouraged, I smiled at them.
My look of approval was precious to them.

Today we focus on the Discouraging Tongue. Think about a time where someone discouraged you and maybe when you dampened someone’s hope, confidence or enthusiasm by objecting their proposed thoughts or actions.  Now its so easy for us to say, “don’t believe what people say about you” “you have to have confidence in yourself” “you have to love yourself” but let’s be honest…at some point a pat on the back or encouraging word always helps offer a boost of confidence and needed support. There are an untold number of people who have missed their destiny because of someone’s discouraging words. Would-be inventors who abandoned their ideas due to critical friends and family, teachers who have discouraged students who had mediocre grades and other short-comings, people who have held their heads down from being told they were unattractive or ugly, being called a loser, dummy, fat, too skinny, all of these things can hinder someone in growing. Why would you want to be the hindrance?

Can you listen to someone’s dreams and plans without making disheartening remarks? Even if you cannot envision the dreams of another, at least agree to stand in faith with him for God’s perfect will to be done regarding of the proposed endeavor. Think of  the people who encouraged you during your life…didn’t those words have a positive effect on you? In a world where people are bombarded by negative comments and images, everyone can use a little encouragement from time to time. I challenge you today to make a conscious, sincere effort to always speak words of affirmation, support and inspiration to those within your circle. If you once spoke something discouraging to someone, whether 1 hour ago, yesterday, or years ago…it’s never to late to offer a sincere apology and re-energize that person with actions of support, since your words failed you before 😉

For those of us that have on the receiving end of a discouraging word…DO NOT BECOME DISCOURAGED!! You are SMART, INTELLIGENT, BEAUTIFUL, HANDSOME, CREATIVE!!!! Keep you eyes fixed on God who specializes in the impossible! God who is also known as the Potter…who can shape and mold mud and clay into a beautiful work of art. Be selective of whom you share your dreams with; everyone cannot handle your goodness! Their lack of faith, initiative and even their envy, may very well be the reason you abort your plans…don’t miss your calling listening to those who never ordered your steps in the first place.

Love ya!!




Proverbs 18:8

The Message (MSG)

8 Listening to gossip is like eating cheap candy;
do you really want junk like that in your belly?


Gossipers are like news anchors…they know all the news, breaking stories and you can count on them to be on the scene in minutes. They have no problem going local, national or international with what they know. If you tune into a gossipers news report…you are just as part of the news as the anchor dishing it out.

So, what news station do you work for/tune into?  “TMZ”–reporting the latest in celebrity gossip news? CNN or Dateline providing up to date, factual, helpful information, that is meant to be informative, educational and thought provoking?

Have you ever engaged in idle and often malicious talk about the personal affairs of another? Have you ever been the receiver of gossip and participated; whether by listening or responding? Gossip, let’s be honest…we’ve ALL done it in barber shop chairs and beauty salons on sunny Saturday mornings, family outings, in school by the locker, at the lunch table…I think you get my drift ;).


I challenge you to ask yourself these questions:

1. Is gossiping the only way you know how to establish camaraderie with others?

2. Do you need to be the center of attention?

3. Does it make you feel superior to know something negative about somebody that the hearer does not know?

4. Are you envious of your subject’s accomplishments?

5. Why are you willing to use the temple of God, your mind and body, as a “trash receptacle” by being a receiver of gossip?

6. What do you plan to do with the information a gossip shares with you?

7. Are you bored with your life and looking for something to do? Are you in need of more meaningful activities? People who are aggressively pursuing their own goals and aspirations are less likely to waste time discussing the affairs of another.

Proverbs 20:19 warns us :

19 Gossips can’t keep secrets,
   so never confide in blabbermouths.

So why would you want someone like that in your company? Someone that you can’t trust. Most importantly, why would you want to be considered one of those people who are untrustworthy and considered a blabbermouth?

I will close today with something all of our parent’s have said to us at one time or another….IF YOU DON’T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY…DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Love Ya!