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“He who guards his…tongue keeps himself from calamity.” Pr 21:23 NIV

If you don’t want people to remember something, don’t talk about it. If you don’t want to hear about it later, don’t sow the seeds of it into their minds. Arguments would cease and stress decrease if only we had the wisdom to know when to be quiet. In order to know what to say, when to say it, and who to say it to, try to be guided by these Scriptures: (1) “The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts” (Pr 18:8). (2) “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life” (Pr 15:4). (3) “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.” Be careful about confessing your mistakes to others. You may be sincere, but when you’re hurting, vulnerable and in need of support, you can raise issues that live longer than the explanations you give. You can’t stop people from shooting at you, but you don’t have to give them ammunition. Certainly there are times when public disclosure is right and wise. Jesus said when someone sins against you, you should do these three things: First go to them privately. If that doesn’t work, take two or three mature people with you. If that doesn’t work, bring it to the church leadership (See Mt 18:15-17). If you have sinned, ask God to forgive you and He will. Then focus on the future and put everything else into God’s hands. If He can deliver you, He can also defend you. If He doesn’t choose to do either, He will use it to develop you.

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Ahhh…the infamous Indiscreet Tongue! Some things are meant to be addressed privately… I’m sure we all know someone who needs to learn a little discretion!  I can think of someone…


Let’s define indiscreet:

not discreet; imprudent or tactless

Adjectives for indiscreet include:

tactless, foolish, rash, reckless, unwise, hasty, ill-advised, unthinking, ill-judged, ill-considered, imprudent, heedless, injudicious, incautious, undiplomatic <—those are horrible adjectives!!

One who is discreet shows prudence and wise self-restraint in speech and behavior; they will always reap a positive consequence.

Indiscretion can be costly. Some matters should simply be off limits for discussion. Have you ever found out something about a leader or prominent person and could not refrain from telling someone? Have you ever thought that if God trusted you enough to reveal someone’s nakedness and sin, that He expected you to cover them with discretion and intercession and not expose them? Bringing about a public revelation is not always necessary; it can cause irreparable damage, to the person as well as the body of Christ. That person’s punishment is God’s business, not yours.

No one is perfect and no one has 20-20 vision on themselves. Remember that! God may someday show someone your nakedness. Pray that it will be handled with wisdom and discretion…plant the seed of discretion now.


“My discretion will protect me and understanding will guard me.”


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