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5 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE HEADED FOR DIVORCE.

I came across this show called Unfaithful : Stories of Betrayal  on OWN and was in shock at the transparency and honesty each couple displayed during each episode. Check out a clip below:

Watching this show I was amazed to see that many of the couples share the same exact issues. So with the numerous amount of friends and family that I have getting ready to tie the knot this and next year, I wanted to share with you 5 ways to know you are headed for divorce. Did you know that 50% of couples that walk down the aisle will get a divorce? 50%!! That number is WAY too high!! If marriage is supposed to be a ministry, I ask you, how are you setting an example for your friends and family who are looking to you to know what marriage is all about? If you are married, is how you and your husband are in public, how you behave at home? This (long ;)) post is to help you understand what things NOT to do in your marriage so that you do not become a statistic for divorce, but a statistic among successful marriages!

  1. YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND. This sounds simple enough. Every great marriage has a strong friendship as the foundation ; but this means so much more than just someone you share a laugh or two with occasionally. A lot of times we enter into our marriages already having 1 or 2 best friend(s) or even our parents are our BFF’s, but your friendship with your spouse MUST take precedent over any other human friendship. (I say human because God should be your 1st BFF ;)). In this case, you have to begin training yourself, friends and family members to understand who your new BFF is. Start sharing things with your spouse that you do not share with others. This helps to build a bond and intimacy among the both you, which also helps to create a trust worthy environment. If you are comfortable sharing everything with your spouse, you’ll be able to practice open and honest communication at all times. This comes with spending true, quality time with one another and constantly “dating”. Contrary to what anyone tells you, you NEVER stop dating and pursuing your spouse. Treat everyday like it is the first time you two have met. Now, I am not saying go into complete isolation and revolve your world around this one person LOL! But, you must understand the enemy does NOT like marriage, he will attack your union anyway that he can. You and your spouse are going to be the only two on the front lines of battle, the last mentality you want is “every man for himself” you too are in this together and need to treat your lives as such. {Genesis 2:24 – “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” }
  2. YOUR CHILDREN OR PETS HAVE SEEN YOU NAKED MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE. Oh, yes I did LOL! How many times have you undressed or changed in front of your kids or the goldfish in your room?! Do you know that lack of intimacy among married couples is included in the top 5 reasons couples get a divorce? Intimacy does not always include sexual intimacy; it could be holding hands, hugging, kissing , spending quality time together etc.  Many of us respond to touch, feeling desired and wanted. We need to feel the touch of another human, especially our spouse. Think about it. We want a pat on the back for a job well done, a hug from a long lost family member, imagine going a long length of time without a touch from your spouse. This easily affects self-esteem and can cause division. Generally, couples who are involved in sexless marriages are not happy in their relationship, they have unmet needs. In a report, it was found that happy couples have more sex, and the more sex a couple has, the happier they report being.  During a 1993 study, it was found that people in sexless marriages were more likely to have considered divorce than those in sexually active marriages. When there is an unmet need, the enemy is cunning in using that as a way to cause division in the union. There is also a higher chance adultery will occur and you NEVER want your spouse to seek outside of your marriage to fill an unmet need. Keep the lines of communication open at all times and be honest with your spouse about what you need. {1 Corinthians 7:3-5 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.}
  3. YOU HIDE “PURCHASES” IN THE TRUNK OR THE CLOSET. Now if you are a serial “hider of purchases” you not only have a problem being honest with your spouse, but you also have issues being honest with yourself. Unless you purchased a gift as a surprise and needed to hide it, there is no reason to hide anything from your spouse. If you do not share your spending habits, you might be tempted to hide and shield other information from your spouse.  This is a habit you do not want to pick  up. Once again, being open and honest with your mate will prevent problems in the future. You NEVER want your spouse to discover something you have been hiding; be open to share at all times. “Purchases” can be anything from bags from bloomies to shielding who you  feel really are. Never hide behind who you think your spouse or anyone wants you to be or who you think your spouse wants. BE YOU! It will set you and your marriage free. {Proverbs 11:3 – The integrity of the honest keeps them on track; 
       the deviousness of crooks brings them to ruin.}
  4. YOUR FACEBOOK “FRIENDS” & TWITTER PEEPS LIKE YOU MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE LIKES YOU. In a society where a lot of our time is spent on the internet and social networking it has become a full-time job to manage your social accounts! It is a world where we control how we are portrayed, we can say what we want, when we want it with hardly any repercussion. But when all of your energy is put into constantly communicating with people over the internet and portraying a life that you desire to have, you begin to form emotional connections and responsibilities to people and things that are not more important than channeling that same energy into your household. If you cannot go a full hour without checking your FB account, tweeting something, posting to Tumblr, recording a YouTube video, then I will pose to you that you may have a problem. Granted, I understand many people make a living off of social networking, there are many bloggers, Vloggers, and even businesses that are doing it big off of social networking,  but when it starts to follow you to the dinner table, or your in bed with your spouse updating your FB status or your quality time includes checking to see how many new followers you have, it’s becoming too much. There should always be a healthy balance of attention given to your spouse in your household. You must make time to ensure the same way you are building relationships across the net is the same way you are building up your marriage.  Bottom line, when it’s all said and done there will be one person standing by your side and you want them to know that they are valued and appreciated no matter what! Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. {Enjoy life with the wife /husband you love all the days of your fleeting life. ~ Ecclesiastes 9:9}
  5. YOU DON’T FORGIVE. This is plain and simple. Whenever we enter into a relationship, especially a marriage we have a habit of entering with  TON of expectations, some of them set VERY high. With extremely high expectations comes the possibility of disappointment, frustration and resentment. YOU MUST LEARN TO FORGIVE in a marriage. Your spouse is going to do something every single day that will hurt  you, disappoint you and may even shock and offend you, I guarantee it! But you MUST learn to forgive. Forgiveness is you allowing a wall to come down and for love, peace and communication to flow through. Forgiveness is essential to the growing of your marriage. Marriage is not easy and it will not always be a walk in the park. But it is the most rewarding experiences you will ever have as long as you are willing to work for it. The key word here…WORK! {Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Proverbs 17:9}

Feel free to share any advice you may have for our engaged and newlywed readers out there!! Leave a comment below or email me at watwldjennsay@aol.com!

Love Ya!

Peaches

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LIVING IN A NEVERLAND

*sigh* Remember the story of Peter Pan? Living in a land where humans can fly in the air and live with no cares or worries. Wouldn’t that be great? Peter spends his never-ending childhood adventuring on the small island of Neverland as the leader of his gang the Lost Boys.

Have you ever known someone who lives the life they have created in their mind; The life that is their reality? Have you ever read someone’s Facebook status or Tweet and scratched your head after reading it? What drives people to be one way in the public eye and another way behind closed doors?

Unfortunately, it seems we live in a world plagued with showcasing and maintaining an image. People are used to sweeping dirt and grime under a rug and walking over it daily; believing in the idea “out of sight, out of mind.” The problem with living a life like this is the energy involved with the upkeep of a facade. It takes an exorbitant amount of energy to be someone you are not, to live a life that is not yours and to portray a story that is fiction.

Now I definitely don’t have the answer to the age old question “Who are You?”; only you can truly answer that. What I can tell you is the only way to live a life of truth and pure joy is to lift the rug, sweep out the dust and grime, deal with your issues full force and head on and press forward! Jesus never told us that we would not have trials and tribulations, He told us to be of good cheer, because He has already overcame them all. There is no need to run away from troubles and realities – we must stand confidently in front of them, stare them down and regain the victory over our lives!

Love Ya!

Peaches

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All an eagle would really like, is a teapot

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!

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WOW!!!

That’s all I can say LOL! My blog post today is simply to say thank you. I wanted to thank every last person who has ever clicked on my blog link, everyone who has shared a post with others, everyone who has ever tweeted a post, posted a status on Facebook, encouraged me to continue to post and everything in between! I have reached over 10,000 views in a year, almost 800 followers on twitter and over 250 fans on Facebook – and that is monumental to me! To go from a simple idea on a couch to now spreading my thoughts to as far as viewers in Australia is something I am very proud of!

For everyone of you who has purchased (and loved ;)) Scentsy or Mary Kay products from me, hosted a party or joined my team…THANK YOU for your support! I look forward to continuing to provide you with incredible service as you provide me an opportunity to enrich your lives and pursue my dream of running a business!

I want to give a special shout out to my hubby who is always ready to stand behind me and not only support me, but he is ALWAYS ready to design something to take my blog or businesses to the next level! I appreciate and love him sooo much and I wanted to preserve this paragraph just for you pookie! 🙂 Check out JP Designs Art if you haven’t already! (Notice the new look?! Don’t you just love the leopard?!!!)

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Love Ya!

Peaches

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TIME IS PRECIOUS

On Average…

108 people die every minute across the world.

250 babies are born every minute.

The average Facebook user spends 24 hours a month on Facebook. (Notice I said average LOL – we all know people who spend WAY more time on FB!)

44,481 tweets occur per minute.

Oprah makes $523 a minute.

3 violent crimes are committed in the United States.

There are 9 new HIV infections.

Every SECOND 750,000 gallons of water flow over Niagra Falls.
Every SECOND 1,978 videos are watched on YouTube.
210 minutes are spent in the bathroom.
An average American spends about 100,000 hours working in their lifetime.
With so much going around you every second, minute and over the course of a lifetime I pose the question to you…what are you doing with you time?  Things are happening, people are accomplishing things, babies are being born, people are getting married – all of these things are occurring on a daily basis. What are you doing with your time?
It might take you about 5 minutes to read this post and in that time 540 people have died. What are you going to do within the next 5 minutes of your life (after reading this post LOL :)) to ensure you are going to leave an impact on someone’s life? Now I’m sure your wondering, “what can I do in 5 minutes that will make an impact on your or someone’s life?” You can hug someone, you can call someone you have not talked to in sometime, pay for someone’s lunch, you can pray (prayer changes things!),  take sometime from social networking and spend time with your family, you could help around the house or clean up you living space,  you can apologize to someone, you can decide to forgive someone, you could even start researching something you have been interested in doing for sometime.
How are you prioritizing your 24 gifted hours? Notice I said gifted…your life is not guaranteed. How are you dividing up your 1,440 minutes everyday. Every minute that you are able to inhale and exhale are valuable gifts. Are you wasting them? Time is something that you can never get back once it’s gone. Are you making the most of your time?
Love Ya!
Peaches
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