“Your past doesnt determine your future.” We hear it ALL the time. But do we really comprehend just how powerful this statement is? Our past is exactly that…our past. Its purpose is to shape us and reveal lessons that will help us with our future endeavors. Our past should be a reference of what NOT to do in our future. Everyday that you wake up you have a chance to create history. So if we know that every decision we make is shaping us and allowing us to “write” our stories… why is it so easy to allow others to shape and determine our futures? Why do we allow society to determine our worth and value when we know we are precious and priceless? In order for you to receive all that God has for you in your future you must make room! Carrying “luggage” from your past will only hinder you from receiving and tapping into new opportunities. And as much as I’d love to say this entry is for everyone…I am especially calling on our women and girls to grab hold of your destiny and never let go until its fulfilled.
Too often women and our precious girls allow our past to shape and dictate our future. Now im sure your thinking “Who is this chick Jenn talkin too? I don’t let anyone tell me who I am or where I’m going! Who does she think she is?! I know my value and worth!” My response, “God Bless You! That is awesome! But what about the women and young ladies you see everyday that may need you more than you know?” The ones you look down on because “she’s a hot one”; or the young lady that looks to have it all but has an empty look in her eyes. Are we pouring into each other? Are you taking that young lady and showing her that there are better ways to live? That she doesn’t have to sell herself for a Gucci bag and a ride in a BMW to feel like she’s worth something? Does she really know how much she’s loved or that Ray-Ray saying ” I love you” is really translation for “I got you”? So often women who can’t see a future look for it in the first one to claim to be able to provide one. They are desperate for love and attention they may have not received growing up. How do we show her that she doesn’t have to let the lack of love received throw her into grabbing love from anyone and anywhere? What about those girls who wake up everyday not sure why they are even here; the ones who see no purpose in living and are moving about life merely existing. The ones stuck in their past afraid their futures will reveal the same disappointments.
It is so easy for us to blame our past and cry and moan about what has happened to us, but it is time for us to allow the past to be a life lesson and claim our futures. Time for us to take an honest look at ourselves and deal with the issues that have kept us from progressing so that we can be secure in our futures. No more allowing BET or TV shows to dictate to us how to live, look or treat others. Stop allowing men to take advantage of your bodies and minds and learn to treat yourself and others with respect. Now I hear that voice again lol “NO she didn’t just say that! I know my worth!!” Again I say, ” You are fabulous! But im sure you know someone out there caught up in a situation you know they don’t need to be in. Have you tried talking to her? Encouraging her? Have you been a role model?” So often we don’t want to “get involved” and then we wonder why our 14 and 15-year-old girls are pregnant but some still can’t read or write , let alone understand the forms they are filling out at the hospital; or why our best friend wont get out of her abusive relationship and is allowing a man to abuse her physically, mentally and emotionally because she doesn’t feel she deserves better. Again I ask “what about them?” They don’t see their futures as clearly as you do for yourself. Sometimes we have to help them remove the rose-colored glasses and replace them with clear bifocals! Help them see that the world is a much better place than the one she is living in now.
Imagine yourself in a dark room that has one window and no doors. Its cold with no blankets to keep you warm, no food to nourish you and keep you strong. You can stand at the window and watch others moving through life as a spectator. This is exactly how someone who doesn’t know they have a future waiting for them feels. They are alone, their heart has turned cold due to the disappointment and discouragement and the absence of the warmth that comes with truly loving themselves. There is no one around to encourage them or pour into them which becomes nourishment to help them reach a new level. Not only do we have to help them understand how important they are but we must understand how vital our roles are as a community. One word, one hug could possibly change someone’s life.
I entitled this entry “Moving Past our Past to get to our Future” because whether we want to believe it or not we need our past; and as I said earlier we are creating our “story” everyday we exist. It is so important for us to realize just how awesome and fabulous we are, men and women alike! Even if mistakes have been made in the past by you or those who claimed to have loved you, Jesus Christ died so that we may live and live abundantly! He loves you so much and doesn’t want to see you living a life below where you should be. Ask Him for forgiveness both for yourself and those who may have hurt you. Holding on to your past is weighing you down and holding you in bondage. Be free! Be swept up in His love and grace! He will fill the holes in your heart and strip every weight that is keeping your from your future! That alone is enough to swing your legs over the bed and put a smile on your lovely face!
Today and everyday EXCEL in all that you do, LOVE harder than you normally would and EXPLORE new things!