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Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.{1 Peter 5:7}

Remember that from the show Family Matters?! Oh that Steve Erkel, he was great wasn’t he? Always had a positive attitude, never gave up pursuing Laura Winslow, would always get kicked out with class lol!  Can you imagine what happened when he was alone with his thoughts? If he became depressed, sad, angry, frustrated, what he would tell himself when no one was around?  He always seemed to have a winning attitude ; Always saw the glass half full.

I know your wondering what in the world am I talking about 🙂 but hear me out! There are so many people who are rejected by ones that they love, not paid attention to, they are depressed, angry, bitter, disappointed and resentful. These are all symptoms of someone whose heart has grown hard and cold. I read something that I wanted to share with you from Joyce Meyer:

“If you think you cannot enjoy life because of a repetitive problem–a certain person you deal with regularly or an unpleasant task you often need to do–you can choose to make the best out of life in spite of the problem/situation. Wherever we set our mind, our emotions follow. For instance, the longer you think about someone or something that causes you to become upset, the more angry you are liable to become. You can change from being totally calm to emotionally violent because of what you choose to think about and dwell on.”

“There are spirits linked to those problems and situations. So many of the problems afflicting us are spirits coming out of hell to attack and try to destroy us!  The devil uses these ongoing problems to squeeze the joy out of our lives by getting us in a pattern of dread.”

Stop giving the enemy so much of your power. We give him way too much credit for things that we are in full control of because our emotions and thoughts; our hearts, minds and bodies belong to God. “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the LORD.
“And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.  {Isaiah 55:8} So why are we allowing the enemy to fill our heads with thoughts that don’t even compare to what God has in store for us?

I want you to know that life is WAY TOO SHORT for you to walk around feeling dreadful and depressed. If you don’t like your environment then change it. Don’t like the people your around…dump em’. Sounds harsh, but you have to do what you have to do to save your sanity and keep peace around you. You cannot fulfill your destiny carrying  junk and luggage on your back. Everyone’s problems are not your obligation. You can be aware but not involved. Live the life that you desire most. Steve Erkel could have easily fell into a deep, dark depression…but thanks to some positive thinking writers 😉 we were able to view a positive thinker in action. Sure Steve became sad and often felt defeated but he had a “light bulb” moment occur that would snap him back to reality. Your “light bulb” moment could be confronting whatever issues you’ve been dreading, it could be conquering something you have feared, recommitting yourself to failed relationships, business ventures or goals, it could be cutting someone out of your life or just taking sometime to yourself to clear your thoughts. You can also find a “light bulb” moment in your Word and through prayer with God.

Sure this all sounds great on screen, no one ever said making sacrifices would be easy, but change and transition are necessary to your growth and development. So don’t fret my pets…it’s ALL good! You are in good, very capable, enormous hands!

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. {Matthew 11:28}

Love Ya!




Contrary to what your nutritionist will tell you, I am writing to tell you that today you need to have 9 servings of fruit; everyday. That’s right…9 heaping servings of the best fruit in town. I am not talking apples and oranges, I am talking about the 9 fruits of the Spirit.

The 9 fruits of the Spirit are vital to our spiritual walk and our daily fight against the world and our flesh. Not sure what I’m talkin’ about…? Read on and let the Word explain.

Galatians 5:13-26
Life by the Spirit

13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” 15If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

16 So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

So what does all of this mean?

LOVE: The Holy Spirit imparts to us the virtue of LOVE.Love radiates from a spirit filled person. A church which is truly spirit filled overflows with love. A distinguishing mark of a true disciple of Christ is love. As it is written in John 13:35 :”All men will know that you are mY disciples, if you love one another.”

JOY: A spirit-filled person has joy on his heart. Joy and pleasure are two different things. A person maybe suffering from a chain of misfortune but still have joy in his heart.

PEACE: Another wonderful virtue imparted to us b the Holy Spirit is PEACE, which is actually the peace of Jesus Christ as it is written in John 14:27 ; ” Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you, I do not give to you as the world gives.” Despite the uncertainties of the future, despite the various problems attacking our economy, despite the present upheavals in our society, a spirit-filled Christian could still remain relaxed, calm, serene. Because the peace of JesusChrist is in his/her heart.

PATIENCE: Longsuffering is synanimous to patient and enduring. Longsuffering is one of the virtues possessed by God so by Christ also. As Christians, longsuffering must be one of our virtues. We must be longsuffering with the weaknesses of out brothers and sisters in the faith. We must be longsuffering with the people we are leading to Christ.

KINDNESS: Kindness is synanimous to compassion, generosity, goodness of heart, goodness in deeds or actions. As we become controlled by the Holy Spirit, true kindness radiates from us . We become more considerate to people,we become compassionate to the needy, to the lost.

GOODNESS: Goodness is one of the virtues imparted to us by the Holy Spirit. We could only function well as Christian if we allow the Holy Spirit to control us. We can become the good trees that produce good fruits as the Holy Spirit controls us. The word is synanimous to suitable or worthy.

FAITHFULNESS: God is ever faithful to us at all times though sometimes we fail. As we are filled and controlled by the Holy Spirit, the virtue is reflected upon us. We also become faithful to him. We become faithful to our commitment to others. Faithfulness in not inherent in man, it is only a God-given virtue.

GENTLENESS: Gentleness is synanimous to meekness. Jesus claimed meekness for himself and significantly coupled it with being “lowly in heart.” His meekness is worthy of our imitation. Meekness of a Christian is displayed by accepting God’s dealings with us as good without any resistance. This is a display of lowliness before God and humility before men.

SELF-CONTROL: Self-control is a discipline, but it cannot be imposed from an outside source. Self-control cannot be achieved by training rather self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. The spiritual Christian has this quality, not as a result of will power or effort but as a result of the work of the Holy Spirit in his lives. Jesus excercised much self-control during his earthly life. A spirit-controlled Christian has self-control in all aspects of his/her life. He has self-control in his thoughts, words, deeds, emotions. he knows well how to handle his emotions and thoughts. He is an emotionally mature person.

You should want to possess the 9 fruits of the Spirit all day e’rr day LOL! 🙂 Let all things you do glorify God and shine through!

Love Ya!




“Hi…my name is Shame and this is my sister Depression… Say hi Depression!”

#blankstare.. “Hi”

“Anyway, like I said I’m Shame–don’t mind her she doesn’t talk much…she sleeps a lot. I’m the oldest, I was around for a while before Depression came. Our father is named D but a lot of people just call him Enemy, don’t know much about our mom. We are a pretty large family, if you know us then you know them! There’s Anger, Disappointment (he’s the popular one out of all of us!), Rejection, Saddness and lil Lo or Low Self-Esteem as you all know him.

Here lately Depression and I have seemed to make a lot of friends. I think we are great friends but a lot of people don’t seem to like us. We’re loyal and we will never leave your side. We follow you around, your friends become our friends (until you lose them because of us) and Depression  loves back rides!

But, I decided to write you to tell you something. I thought I was doing everything D told me to do; I thought I was doing a great job being friends with people. Until the day I overheard my father D on the phone…

I’m not sure who he was talking to, but I heard him say how he loves using me and Depression to destroy people and make them sad. I always wondered why he would force me to remind my “friends” of their past regrets and failures. I never wanted things to be this way. You have to believe me. I never wanted you to feel horrible about yourself or hang your head low…I just always did what I was told; and as long as you allowed me to infect you with negativity the easier my job became. But I want to help you…

I know a way that you can get rid of me and Depression and all our cousins for good. As much as I have enjoyed our time together, I know that you are not happy and for that I’m willing to let you go ONLY if you allow me to introduce you to someone that I have only heard great things about. I know, I know…you probably don’t trust anyone that I have to suggest, but trust me on this one. He’s a really nice guy, great listener, awesome jokes and I heard He never sleeps; so if you need someone to talk to He’s the One. I heard He walks beside you in every area of your life, during your highs and lows, He hugs you at night while you sleep, protects you during the day. He will speak to you daily when your ears are open to hear ; but you will not be able to hear him if we are around. I heard He came to give people abundant life and fill them with unspeakable joy and peace. I know, sounds a little far fetched right?  But It’s strange, people who know Him don’t know me, Depression or any of my cousins. And if people did know who we were, we are crushed under His feet whenever His presence becomes prevalent.

He doesn’t have a phone but there are several ways to get in touch with Him. He loves to read, write Him a letter. He loves to listen, talk to Him anywhere and at anytime. Sometimes He doesn’t mind sitting in silence; just drop to you knees, release your negative thoughts and just begin to think about Him; His kindness, His mercy and grace… and feel His presence begin to come in the room without ever opening your mouth. When He is around, you will know. Suddenly the sun shines bright even when it’s raining, you smile through all things because you know He is alongside you through your journey, your Aunt Mables pumpkin pie all of a sudden taste delicious LOL! Sometimes, I have heard that some people experience a chill up their spine and in their arms when He is near. If your shy about meeting new people that’s okay too. He doesn’t mind and is certainly not intimidated by you or your shyness. He is patient and understanding and longs to hug you and let you know His great plans for you. He’ll encourage you to get up and get out and do the things that make your heart smile. He will remind you that all old things, including the life you are not so proud of, have passed away and that you are now a new creature. That means you get a start fresh with Him by your side.”

“Shame, don’t you think you’ve said enough?! Ugh…you talk to much! I’m going back to sleep.”

“Yea, Depression I guess that’s enough…I’ve definitely talked way too much. If my dad knew what I told you that would be it for me. We’re gonna go now…lots of luck to you. Please don’t let us meet again.”


Love Ya!





“Acquaint yourself with Him, and be at peace.” Job 22:21 NKJV

A wealthy businessman was upset to find a fisherman sitting beside his boat. “Why aren’t you out fishing?” he asked. “Because I’ve caught enough for today,” replied the fisherman. “Why don’t you catch more fish than you need?” the businessman asked. “What would I do with them?” replied the fisherman. The businessman said, “You could earn more money, buy a bigger boat, catch even bigger fish and make more money. Soon you’d have a whole fleet of boats and be rich like me.” The fisherman said, “Then what would I do?” The businessman replied, “You could sit down and enjoy life.” The fisherman said, “What do you think I’m doing now?” Contentment comes from two things: (1) Great relationships. And the first one you must have is with God. In the book of Job we read: “Acquaint yourself with [Him], and be at peace; thereby good will come to you.” The second relationship you must have, and treasure, is with your family. When you reach the end of your life that’s the relationship that will matter most. (2) God-given purpose. You must identify your core strengths, know what God’s called you to do, then go to work. Humorist Sam Levenson said, “My folks are immigrants. They fell under the spell of the American legend that said the streets are paved with gold. But when Papa got here he found out three things: (a) The streets are not paved with gold. (b) Many streets are not paved at all. (c) He was supposed to do the paving.” What are you supposed to do? Do it, and you’ll find contentment.

Love Ya,