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“He who guards his…tongue keeps himself from calamity.” Pr 21:23 NIV

If you don’t want people to remember something, don’t talk about it. If you don’t want to hear about it later, don’t sow the seeds of it into their minds. Arguments would cease and stress decrease if only we had the wisdom to know when to be quiet. In order to know what to say, when to say it, and who to say it to, try to be guided by these Scriptures: (1) “The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts” (Pr 18:8). (2) “A wholesome tongue is a tree of life” (Pr 15:4). (3) “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.” Be careful about confessing your mistakes to others. You may be sincere, but when you’re hurting, vulnerable and in need of support, you can raise issues that live longer than the explanations you give. You can’t stop people from shooting at you, but you don’t have to give them ammunition. Certainly there are times when public disclosure is right and wise. Jesus said when someone sins against you, you should do these three things: First go to them privately. If that doesn’t work, take two or three mature people with you. If that doesn’t work, bring it to the church leadership (See Mt 18:15-17). If you have sinned, ask God to forgive you and He will. Then focus on the future and put everything else into God’s hands. If He can deliver you, He can also defend you. If He doesn’t choose to do either, He will use it to develop you.

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Proverbs 27:2

2 Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth;
an outsider, and not your own lips.

Oh yes!! We all know someone who always finds time to boast about their accomplishments or possessions! Now please don’t me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being excited about achieving goals and obtaining wonderful things, BUT who are you giving credit too? Yourself or God? Have you forgotten that everything you have comes from God? Nothing and I mean NOTHING that you do comes from your own hand. You don’t wake up on your own, you don’t breathe on your own, sometimes you can’t even decide what you’re going to wear that day, what makes you think you are living  without the favor of God on your life? So why not start giving credit where credit is due!

Whatever skills or talents God has given you, they are for His glory. Learn to take pride in stride. If your popularity increases, do not become intoxicated by the praise and accolades. Praise is like old lady perfume…if you consume it, it will kill you!

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Next up we are going to take a look at what it means to have a divisive tongue. The scripture reference for today is:

Matthew 5:9 (The Message)

9“You’re blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s when you discover who you really are, and your place in God’s family.

One of the enemies most effective ways to hinder progression is through divide and conquer. There is power, synergy and blessings when 2-3 touch and agree and are in harmony; therefore he makes every effort to bring division.

Believe it or not there are people out there who purposefully try to bring division and confusion amongst people and situations. They enjoy dissension and division.

You must not be ignorant to the enemies tactics: he will cause you to become offended over a harmless statement, you will read more into a comment than the speaker intended, you will ascribe impure motives to someone’s behavior or even believe a lie. Again, we MUST rely solely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit within us who will reveal the truth of any situation.

Have you ever pulled someone aside to share that someone else had said something about them? Were your intentions to gain favor with person A and expose person B for speaking poorly about someone? Were you indirectly communicating your own feelings about the “bad guy” at the expense of someone else? Either way your words have the potential to cause dissension if your underlying motives are not to bring peace and togetherness.

You are to refrain from causing division and become an active agent of peace by using your best effort to reconcile parties in conflict.

Today ask God to help you make every effort to speak words the bring peace and to help you refrain from any and all communication that creates dis-unity.

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Welcome back friends to another edition of  30 Days to Taming your Tongue. Today we focus on “The Hasty Tongue”. The scripture reference for this is found in Proverbs 29:20.

Proverbs 29:20 (The Message)

20 Observe the people who always talk before they think—
even simpletons are better off than they are.

Before we dig any deeper into what it means to have a hasty tongue, lets define hasty and see what words are in its company.

Hasty : Adjective: Done or acting with excessive speed or urgency; hurried

Now what words will you find in the company of hasty? See below…

abrupt, agile, brash, brisk, careless, eager, expeditious, fast, fiery, foolhardy, heedless, hurried, ill-advised, impatient, impetuous, impulsive, incautious, inconsiderate, prompt, quick, quickened, reckless, rushed, short, snappy, sudden, superficial, swift, thoughtless, urgent.

Wow! We all have to admit…we can be a bit hasty at times with our words as well as our actions, but I am sure we do not want our words or actions to be associated with hasty or the like words above. We must realize that we have a chance to offend someone because we fail to think before we speak or act. Have you ever committed to something  and did not follow through without much consideration as to how that action will affect those involved? That is considered hasty as well. You are not equipped to measure someone’s sensitivity to something you say or do; here is where you are to totally depend on the Holy Spirit to lead and direct your speech.

There is another side to this coin and that is responding in haste. Do not be so quick to answer/respond to someone without fully understanding where they are coming from. The Bible says:

Proverbs 18:13 (The Message)

13 Answering before listening
is both stupid and rude.

How’s that for being blunt and honest?!

Overall, we must realize that time and words are two things that, once gone, can never be recovered. Take time today and everyday to weigh your words before you release them!

Today, declare over yourself that you are swift to hear and slow to speak. Ask God to set a guard over your mouth and ask Him to keep watch over the door of your lips!

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